By Doris Appelbaum

 A woman will get only what she seeks. Choose your goals carefully. Know what you like and what you do not like. Be critical about what you can do well and what you cannot do well. Choose a career or lifestyle that interests you and work hard to make it a success, but also have fun in what you do. Be honest with people and help them if you can, but don’t depend on anyone to make life easy or happy for you (only you can do that for yourself). Be strong and decisive but remain sensitive.

Understand who you are and what you want in life before joining an organization. When you are ready to enter a professional relationship, be sure that it is worthy of everything you are physically and mentally. Strive to achieve all that you want. Find happiness in everything you do  Make a triumph of every aspect of your life (This advice contains excerpts from a poem by Susan Polis Schutz).

Employers know one of the greatest challenges is finding truly qualified candidates in a time-efficient and cost-effective manner, especially in such a competitive environment. When looking for a job maintain and exude self-confidence. Be your best. Network! Develop a portfolio! While the Internet will play a more important role in future recruiting, don’t underestimate the value and importance of "real world" interaction.  While technology seems more amazing every day, many employers don't rely exclusively on online services for recruiting. It's just one dimension of their overall program.

Employers and candidates seek to develop lasting relationships, and all relationships demand personal contact and interaction. That's why job fairs work for candidates and employers. Women should change some basic behaviors to win more power in organizations. Don't talk too much when contributing a new idea. Develop your message in strong, descriptive words.

Promote yourself! Don’t worry about the “swelled head” syndrome. Don't be afraid to blow your own horn and accept compliments. Be powerful in your communications. Give dynamite presentations and definitive answers. Eliminate words that make you sound wishy-washy, like sorta, perhaps, probably, just, and actually.

Elizabeth Cady Stanton didn't vanish over time. A 19th Century matron, she started her marriage in Boston, surrounded by a community of like- minded friends, living in a lovely house and assisted by two hard- working servants. She loved housework. When her husband got a job in Seneca Falls, a very unromantic mill town in upstate New York, the neighbors weren't friendly, her husband was frequently away, and the children kept getting sicknesses. The house was isolated, and Stanton began to have trouble garnering any enthusiasm for cleaning it. "Now I understood, as I never had before, how women could sit down and rest in the middle of general disorder," she wrote.

Stanton gathered up her storehouse of grievances and dumped them in the lap of Lucretia Mott, who was summering in Waterloo, N.Y., and probably bored out of her mind as well. They developed a newspaper announcement and invited people to a women's rights convention a few days later. Just like that, the women's movement was born. Later female heroines include Eleanor Roosevelt, Gloria Steinham, Betty Friedan, Rosa Parks, and Oprah.

Doris Appelbaum is Founder and CEO of Appelbaum's Resume Professionals, Inc. in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. She is an  international career consultant, resume writer, educator, speaker, and trainer.  Doris can be reached at (414) 352-5994  - 1-800-619-9777 - This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. - (414) 352-7495 (fax).  Visit her company’s website for FREE resume critiques as well as career and military transition advice: http://www.appelbaumresumes.com.